Turning “Have to’s” into “Want to’s”
Monday’s are my “Have To” days.
I have to:
- Clean the house from the weekend
- Plan my week’s dinner menu
- Go grocery shopping
- Get dinner started
- DO THE LAUNDRY (I only do it once a week, so it is BIG)
- Return emails
- Work on the website
- Pick up kids
- Run them to practices
I know you all have the same list of “Have To’s.” And many times, these “to do’s” feel like obligations looming over out heads. They can feel stressful and all-consuming. We can forget to live life and enjoy ourselves because there is so much we “have” to do.
We feel controlled by our responsibilities and that BITES.
When our obligations begin to send our energy in a downward spiral, it is time to STOP. Realize that you don’t HAVE to do anything. Everything is a CHOICE. That laundry can wait! So why do you do it? You choose to because it is a sign of love and care for your family.
I choose to clean my house (because I want an inviting, comfortable space for my family)
I want to plan my dinners (because I care about what my children eat)
I want to go to the grocery store (because I love having fresh food in the house)
I choose to do the laundry (because I love my kids to look cute and clean)
Doesn’t that FEEL different? By just using the word “want to” or “choose to” it shifts everything. It feels lighter. You feel more in control. It feels more loving. It feels giving rather than taking from us.
So, the next time you make a list, instead of titling it “TO DO” write at the top “GET to do” or “WANT to do” or “CHOOSE to do.”
And, by all means, if you don’t want to do it, then don’t. It is ok to let things go sometimes. We all need those days off.
I’m looking forward to another week with you all! Now, I “GE TO” show love for my family through some nice, clean laundry :)